He Actually Showed Some Spine! Who Knew?

It didn't go well with S. He is determined to get half my retirement and stock and also wants spousal support. I guess there's no pride there. So, it looks like this will be more expensive than I'd hoped. He even said he's going to "make a list of all your responsibilities that you didn't fulfill." By that he means I didn't clean and cook enough. What is this...1950?  Gee, one would think being the breadwinner for the family might be the main focus for me since he wasn't fulfilling "his responsibilities" by bringing home the bacon. Ah well. My attorney said he can definitely make a case that S isn't entitled to half of my retirement and stock since he didn't contribute as one would expect a stay-at-home spouse to contribute. 


S has now completely abandoned DD and in his deluded thinking is justified in doing so since he perceives that I'm "turning her against him." Paranoia reigns supreme. 

I should have the money for my attorney's retainer pulled together in about five or six weeks and will very happily give him instructions to serve the papers. 


On a happier note, DD is taking photography and is sooooo excited about it. Last night she set up some candles and did some experimenting with long exposures. It was so much fun to watch her get all excited about the results. Ah, my mama-heart is just bursting.


That's it for now. I'm looking forward to my weekend. Yay! I love you girls! :-)





Weight loss to date on the my-husband's-a-lying-cheating-bastard diet: 21 pounds. How do you like me now? ;-)

Tomorrow's the Day

Okay, I've gone through all the bills, I've written a proposal for a settlement and I've asked S to talk tomorrow. Silly boy, he thinks he's coming over to discuss open enrollment for my benefits plan at work.

Wish me luck.



Weight loss to date on the my-husband's-a-lying-cheating-bastard diet: 20 pounds. How do you like me now? ;-)

Wow. This is News!

I had my second attorney consultation this afternoon. The first one was last week and I walked away feeling not at all confident in the attorney. This time, however, I felt like this guy really knows what he's doing and he has the experience to back it up. So, he started by letting me know that he was there to answer all my questions and that, hopefully, I would leave feeling at least a little bit better than I felt walking in. Well, that may have been the best $50 I've spent in my entire life! :D

Ken let me know that not only should I NOT be paying S and his slut's rent (and that no one in his right mind would expect me to be paying it!) but that HE should be paying half the mortgage and other joint bills. Well, how 'bout dat?!? I know, I know, all of my girlfriends have been telling me for weeks that I'm crazy to continue putting $$ in the joint account, but I just couldn't bring myself to completely cut him off. Yes, there's 17 years of history. Anyway, I've already moved my paycheck to my personal account and now I'll take over paying the bills and he can figure out how he's going to pay his rent. As Ken said, maybe he should get an income. LOL.

There were other revelations during the consultation, but that one was, by far, the  best news. So, payday is this week, so I'll have to let S know the news and, yes, he'll be very angry, but that's life. You're 52 years old and you chose this. I didn't. There are consequences in this life. 

On another topic, we got a cat about six years ago because we had a mouse problem in our old house. We'd tried everything to get rid of them, but finally had to get a cat. Enter McGonagal (Maggie for short). She took care of the problem post haste.  But, S bitched about her for six years. Well, he is allergic to cats, I'll give him that. A little cathartic move on DD's on my part: we adopted Kevin today. He's totally awesome. And gorgeous. And sweet. And lovable. Check him out:

Ah. Sweet boy.

Just a Note

This one will be short and sweet, but I just wanted to do a shout out to my dear, wonderful, incredibly strong, beautiful girlfriends...Heather, Cheryl, Dita, Christine, and Susan. You've each had a ready ear for my venting over the past month, and I can't tell you how that's helped me!


I spent a few hours with Heather and Cheryl tonight, and, ladies, your company and comments were a balm to my soul. I love you!


Off to bed. I'll try to revisit this weekend. But, I do have acupuncture and I'm making drapes and sorting through some of S's stuff to get it out of my house. It's going to be a busy weekend. Yay!