Okay, ladies. My apologies for letting so much time pass since my last post. Today is, as my friend Tiffiny pointed out, a milestone. It's exactly three months since LCB walked out the door. I expected today to be like any other, so imagine my surprise when it ended up being one of the most difficult days I've had in at least six weeks. I'm feeling a bit blindsided. Sigh.
Since I last posted, LCB has gone from being somewhat civil to totally vicious to really nice. How's that for consistency? Ha. I've been called--brace yourself--a pig, fat, a failure, a drunk, a drug user, an unfit mother, and he dug as low as he could go and called me a child molester. I must admit I have been shocked by his behavior. These names were all in response to the settlement offer I mentioned in my last couple of posts. I'm thinking he was insulted by it. Anyway, I made another settlement offer about a week and a half ago, significantly upping it, and he found that insulting as well. Oh, and I feel really, really good about this: he apologized for all the names he called me and told me he knows they aren't true. It was very meaningful to me. What a schmuck! I've never understood people who think they can say whatever they want and then apologize for it. The damage is done.
LCB is taking DD out to dinner tonight. P.F. Chang's was DD's choice; since it's the first time in three months her father's made any effort to spend time with her, I'm thinking she should get to eat where ever she'd like. My youngest stepdaughter is meeting them there. She hasn't seen him since Father's Day. She came here for Thanksgiving (we had a great time, BTW). She also offered once again to have a chat with judge on my behalf. I'll talk with my attorney--we may just take her up on that.
Anyway, when LCB picked up DD this evening, he told me he needs access to information he used to have access to. What do you mean by that, says I. Your 401k and stuff, says he. I let him know the court will require me to provide that information. I don't see my giving it to him any sooner than I need to. He also complained that I never leave him room in the driveway. Don't see that happening anytime soon either. :-)
The magical time has passed and I now have the money for my attorney's retainer and an appointment at the end of the week. I guess I'll find out then how long it takes to actually file and serve the papers after I give him the go-ahead, which will be on Friday.
LCB is coming over tomorrow to get some more of the equipment he needs for his business. I'm so not looking forward to that. Wish me luck.
Cheers.
